This is our first guest blogger post. Baajaare (s) – Two like minded and fabulous people taking on the world with their pens (or rather keyboards). Our expressed opinions here are for you to ponder on and take it with a pinch of salt.
Happiness like grief, love, sex, orgasm and many other things is very individual…..Happiness to me is a moment…it will pass and another will replace…we cant be happy all the time or draw a perfect smile on our face to show others that we are laughing or happy inside.
Having said that, I do believe that true happiness is within and it comes with self-awareness.
“If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” Daniel Goleman
In other words, no one wants to deal with over-emotional people unless it is laughter…and fun! Most of us out there put on roles with different people. Some roles are fun and cool, some aren’t but that does not mean we are not happy. We go through life thinking we are not happy or having that BMW, a girl-friend with legs to her neck, or even having great sex with our partner all the time will make us happy but that is not the truth is it??? We might not be able to afford that BMW or have great sex all the time but we can make plans to try to achieve the closest possible result…and we will derive satisfaction from it which in turn will turn into a form of happiness or even pleasure…again depending on how one views it…
True happiness is the ability to accept that we cannot afford the BMW or have great sex all the time but coming up with the alternatives and going with the next best thing…Some would call it acceptance…like fate but I call it “self awareness”. When you know yourself, you are able to observe the reactions you have for situations around you and you decide what you want to affect you or what you want to feel passionate about…the list goes on and on…this only happens when we are self aware. Knowing is the first step and change in the second.
I was like countless other individuals. I was so comfortable playing the victim and actually basking in it that I did not realise that the victim role was the actual reason I was unhappy inside where it mattered the most. Once I shed that role and took on the role of a champion, I became more the “me” that I wanted to be on the inside. I could only do it after I became AWARE.
True happiness is being in peace with the “real us”…lets begin to accept the “real us”. But please don’t go to a tall mountain and sit and find yourself or lock yourself up in a room and meditate…instead just sit and observe yourself and your reactions…understand situations that make you happy inside and things that make you mad (you are afterall human – even Mother Teresa had her moments – I am sure) and this self awareness will make you a better person…just give it a try…it worked for me… 🙂
Written by Baajaaree (who wants to remain anonymous for now)